MorahRach -“Although I am very happy, I don’t have SO much faith in happy marriages. It sounds really horrible, but I never have and I hope that changes. Until I got married I whole heatedly ( and sometimes still do) believe that most married people aren’t really all that happy. My parents legitimately hated each other 75% of the time.”
All your negativity sounds like a book I had to read in College called “Against Love”. Even though my parents didn’t have a good marriage and mine ended – I know that there are plenty of happy marriages. Some marriages have to be worked on, but not all.
And happiness doesn’t mean what you read in the fairy tales as a little kid. Perhaps try reading “Gateway to Happiness” by Z. Pliskin to find out what happiness is. Noone is perfect and the quicker the husband or the wife learn this – the less rocky the road of life will be.