Could someone define this “shallow” term for me please? Is the assumption here that people are entirely in control over their attractions, or that they should marry someone they’re not attracted to?
And even if one is entirely in control over their attractions, why should they change themselves? Do THEY have a problem?
All I seem to be hearing is how people not attracted to heavy/short people, should be. Why should they be? Is there a law or moral standard that states “thou shalt be attracted to anyone with a good heart”?
Let everyone marry whatever size they want!
If anything, this should help the shidduch crisis. Too many girls on the one hand, boys wanting skinny girls on the other, so a girl making/keeping herself skinny (if she can) gives her a competitive advantage.
It often gives girls some hishtadlus they can do, and it takes the right to complain away from those who don’t bother.