ARWSF – It is inexcusable and a crime what your ex-spouse did to you, may Hashem give you strength.
Shmoel: it is part machala, and part weakness.
Torah is THE biggest antidote to one’s Yeitzer Hara. if one is not into torah, he is vulnerable to even the sickest of evils.
Secondly, the Roshei Yeshivas have been screaming the idea till blue in the face, but few listen, and even few act. I am refering to learning mussar. People just aren’t machshiv it, yet this generation of all generations needs it the most.
Does he regret it? I have a feeling that he does. It is an addiction, he most certainly understands that he let it overpower him and ruin his life and his spouses’. He probably WAS a tzaddik, and a wonderful man – and might I add, maybe he still is- but this one area was too overpowering until it spiraled out of control, destroying his life and family.
May Hashem bless you with only happiness in the future and strength to carry on, and to forget the pain of the past.