yeshivabochur123:
Perhaps you would be happy with your parents told you who to marry.
I wasn’t even ok with my parents telling me who to date.
I think most young people today are looking for different things than their parents are, (as you point out), and my feeling is that the people themselves are more likely to be correct than the parents.
This ain’t europe. I was living in the dorm for over 10 years before I started to think about dating. My parents knew what I needed about as well as Obama knows what the country needs.
Our communities, especially the litvaks, are not at all homogenous. You cannot assume that any guy and any girl will have remotely similar hashkafos. You cannot assume that parents and children will have similar hashkafos.
This discussion is moot anyway, since there is no chance in the world we will ever move to such a system.