I don’t know what he was capable of, or not capable of. And of course, I’m sure that G-d also understands us on a sliding scale of things which are harder for us and things which are easier.
I share your desire to want to be upset at someone, and want to think someone will be held responsible. But I get a lot more solace from believing in a benevolent G-d who would not punish us for things beyond our control.