ski, I’m sorry for the pain you went through. You are absolutely right. The person that said these things did a terrible thing.
And aries is right, it is really important to try to not let other people’s judging hurt you. It’s unfortunate that there are so many people like that. I’ve had to live half my life being judged unfairly by people for something that wasn’t even my choice, and it hurt a lot. But I try very hard to not let it bother me. That is how I am still happy and functioning day to day. If I’d let the pain from these people go into me, I wouldn’t survive.
It is wonderful that you acknowledge certain areas that you can improve in. That is a great thing. Keep it up, and try to not let other people’s judging bother you.