Skiaddict: I truely feel for your predicament..
though I would like to share another wedding scenario with you from yesterday. I was at a chasuna where aniece of the machateneste came dressed in a fashion shall we say different than the whole family. The wedding was quite crowded, but I noticed everyone looking at her, pitying her. It really was awful. The reason is this neice was not brought up this way and only changed her attire within this year. people who knew her before looked at her with shock.Can we say that the crowd of almost 1000 people were all closed minded or shallow. I am not here to judge that. I have one question, if she loves her aunt, why couldnt she dress accordingly just for the chasuna, so as not to stick out and make everyone turn around? When someone not frum from my family attends our simchas, they respect our beliefs and comes dressed accordingly. Why cant someone brought up with the same beliefs have the same respect?