“..a woman commented to my friend that she is shocked at something i was wearing,…”
“..The wedding was quite crowded, but I noticed everyone looking at her, pitying her. It really was awful…”
I notice that an important aspect of these weddings is for (all) the female guests to inspect all other guests in order to ascertain whether each one is obeying the rules of the game. Violators will be notified and punished by social banishment from the club. There is no second chance. If the behavior is corrected, one will say, “Look at her now, but I once saw her….”
This behavior, not new of course but increasingly prevalent, is a recipe for creating a dysfunctional cult-like society. It should be strongly discouraged despite the dubious psychological lift one gets from feeling superior to others.