oh, come on. You’ve never struggled and failed? Getting insulted/mussar -whether its right or wrong- hurts most then. Instead of comparing it to motorcycles… how abt when you know you should get up early and get ready so you won’t be rushed and stressed later, and you have an internal battle and then hit snooze. if s.o. tells you, well you shoulda got up early!, doesn’t that hurt? you know u struggled.
or a different view: OP said she tried fixing it, but failed, and went anyhow. how about if you planned on going to a wedding/parlor meeting and your ride fell through. You could technically find another way, but don’t.
You know what you’re wearing may not be topnotch for that circle, and you may even know you’ll get looks. but you go anyhow to be mesameach choson v’kallah. No one can know which was more important.
yasher koach to OP for working on your tznius, and struggling to fix it before you went. As far as i know, we all struggle and fail, and that is the learning and growing experience.
Side point: Tznius is compared to limud torah, not a man’s yetzer hora for pritzus. Compare struggling to concentrate and not get distracted or take coffee/shmooze breaks to constantly being aware of tznius. Overcoming a challenge equates to scheduling and extra hour in of learning- neither is a one time thing.
pba- +1! and for keeping your head and your cool.