mdd- if we’re dispensing mussar and its for a purpose, no hard feelings involved, may i suggest you learn hilchos onaas devorim. I’d be careful before accusing anyone of anything, if they’re NOT doing an aveira which you believe would mattir it, so don’t accuse Aries of ignorance nor Sam2 of misplaced priorities. Learning how to be sensitive in speech is part of the teachings of the chofetz chaim. maybe reread sefer shmiras halashon. The chofetz chaim foundation also has an amazing sefer called positive word power. Not giving you a psak! just my opinion! And lets all try to keep the discussion practical and not turn it into personal attacks from now on. (i know that was soo hypocritical of me :), but i wanted to get that out- not a personal attack. I apologize if it came out that way)
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