DaasYochid – I had a re-read of your posts, and I think uneeq might be right. I’m sorry. My reaction was a bit of a visceral one; I had a bit of a bad experience myself (see thread on Bet Shemsh incident for details). Once again, sorry. And, just btw, I was a pre-chasuna learner/earner (now post-chasuna…), and the circles I was in had a fair few others too.
Your point about associating with similar types may be generally true, though not in my specific case. I have friends from pretty much across the spectrum, from Sadigur to Chardal to MO to Yekkish to Brisk and further.
And in case you missed it, sorry.