1 Telling your wife not only what you expect, but also demanding HOW she must accomplish it, is a dictatorship, not a partnership.
2. You can never tell anyone HOW to go about reaching a certain level in life. Just because something inspires you, doesn’t mean it will work for her. Shiurim may inspire you, but doing chessed may inspire her more. If you’re really concerned, maybe go thru a hashkafa sefer together at the Fri nite meal…….