interestingly enough, a pretty prominent and well known rabbi told me i could “practice date” and not only that i could but that i should! perhaps everyone and every situation is different. maybe for girls its different. esp if were having difficulty getting dates to begin with. (it didnt help much cuz i still had little practice dates that came along….) i was only about 21 at the time and i BH have no handicaps or disabilities so i dont know why he suggested it. maybe cuz i was an out of towner living in ny or maybe he didnt want me to become depressed or start to despair. as i got older shadchanim actually did push me dating people i knew i didnt wanna marry. so it was bital zman from the start. they knew it, i knew it, and they still said try it whats one date going to hurt. i think it really all depends on your situation. good luck.
Menu