I’m a single girl, Medium Size Shadchan, and not callous.
:rant:
Rather than marry boys older, I suggest a drastic increase in humility. Girls should realize that boys are different and not expect them to be on exactly the same ruchniyus and maturity level, as long as the right values are in place. And boys should stop thinking they can cherry pick girls.
Everyone thinks they are perfect. The girls, who have never dealt with the outside world, don’t understand the challenges they will face will change them and don’t appreciate the nisayon-free life they have led. And the boys think that if they are halfway decent, all the girls should fall head over heels on sight.
Borei Nefashos Rabos V’Chesronam, we all have our flaws so we
should help each other. Hashem will help us find the right one, as he helped our parents and their parents etc. through the generations, or else you wouldn’t be here.
Let’s relax, work on improving ourselves, realize we’re not perfect and can’t expect to marry someone perfect, and maybe accept that our zivug may come from somewhere we don’t expect.
Please, fellow single girls, stop worrying about getting married! Once you get married, there are bills to pay, kids to raise, and their shidduchim to worry about… it’s never-ending. Enjoy life and let the boys work for something for once!
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