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Why can’t all this learning be done post chasunah? So go to kollel for an extra year or 2?
Maybe if we guys felt the pressure of having to marry earlier we would feel the need to grow up quicker and mature quicker. Some guys at 21 are still babies but if they knew they would be hitting the shidduchim market at 21 they would grow up at 20 and look at life more seriously at an earlier age.