I am really confused. Is this how many dates they go on with the girl before committing or the amount of girls they go out with before finding their bashert? Those are two totally different questions.
My parents dated 10 and 12 years respectively before meeting each other. They found each other in the end, and that’s what’s important.
If you’re discussing pickiness, then you’re bringing up a topic that has already been wrung dry.
Just a story of what picky means: a 45 year old guy asking that he date nobody BELOW age 30. This is a real person. My mom hung up on him. (She’s a part-time shadchan.)