and that you will never pressure a guy or girl again while they are dating in any way.
That’s wrong. Many singles were too “picky”; when the right kind of pressure was put on them, they were able to overcome commitment or other issues and go on to happy marriages. This is an important reason why for many, a good shadchan is imperative for the successful conclusion of a shidduch (engagement and marriage).
The right kind of pressure can come in many forms; usually outright pressure (“Why are you being so picky!”) won’t work.
Those singles who are confident in their own abilities to find the right one, and won’t accept hep, guidance, and advice, are at a distinct disadvantage.