We did not see the facts, you did. We can’t evaluate from your words only, if you are overreacting or if there is a legitimate concern. Why don’t you ask a mom who raised a few boys to come along with you, next time you go there? Or if he can find the time, your husband? I don’t like the american way where children are kept on a leash until they are teenagers (and then obviously they rebel and do very stupid things and harm themselves and other people) and I have the feeling this is your first child and you are worried about something perfectly normal, but safety is serious business and if indeed there is a danger, things have to change. No one here can guess whether there is, or isn’t.
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