“In addition to a good wife, mother and someone I get along with (and loved — that was important to me too), “
Love comes after marriage. The torah says yitzchak loved Rifka only after marriage not before. And the whole idea of being “in love” with yoru wife is silly, goyish and not rooted in teh torah. Your wife should be yoru partner and your helper and your ezer knegdo. Shes not there for romance.