If he gave her ring when he proposed isnt that sort of marrying her?
No, we had this discussion a short while ago.
Since he intends for the ring to be merely a gift and not to effect kiddushin, and she knows this as well (and does not want to accept the ring for kiddushin) and since it is the common custom and practice to give a ring for engagement without it being for kiddushin (and hence, everyone who sees this going on knows that it’s not for kiddushin), it is therefore not an actual marriage.
The Wolf