Reply To: Saying No to a Marriage Proposal

There is definitely a difference between “fat” and “chubby”. I don’t think there is too much wrong with saying no to a shidduch because one of the parties is overweight. In my Kallah classes I learned physical attraction is a big factor in a marriage. If weight is an issue say no in the beginning, not once people have spent thousands of dollars to fly across the country for a lechaim! Also the girls feelings were at stake at that point. In general when people say we focus too much of superficiality, I have mixed feelings. There is being superficial, and there is reasonable.