justwant, you’re way overreacting and being quite oversensitive. If you’d take a second to think about what you’re reading, you’d realize that sbeph is not asking whether yeshivish people give condolences to the bereaved or not. He is asking if they use the actual word “Condolences” as the line to comfort the bereaved. It would have been more clear had he used quotation marks, but that is obviously what he meant.
(Now that I think about it, your misreading probably stems from the fact that it is a yeshivish thing to say “say a dvar torah” or “saying good”. In English you use the word “say” when mentioning the actual words being said. I don’t mean to imply there’s anything wrong with having a yeshivish dialect, merely that it is good to know what phraseology stems from that dialect but is not universal.)