Popa, I believe this is a common sentiment, like it or not.
As I wrote, “yes, I can see it being a deal-breaker for some people, and for [my above] reason…”
Starting a marriage in the most optimal way for them, seems like it should rank pretty high on the list for some people, to the point that they’d rather first consider other potential mates with whom they would be able to start off their marriage as optimally as possible.