Snowbunny as others already have written, full-time learners, or even english-fluent litvish full-time learners, are not identical twins or xerox copies of each others. Each one of us only needs one soulmate, you should find yours quickly and easily. There are people who are completely against national service but also there are people who don’t really have an opinion (possibly having never met anyone who did) and are open to it, and there are yet other people who greatly admire those who do.
You seem very determined, perhaps you should consider starting dating.