artchill….. chill. You seem to be unaware of the point I am bringing up.
Moq, thanks for the reference. The point you make is valid, and the problem of chinuch bonim is what I recall from when I was learning the halachos (and google brought up R’ Reisman’s sefer which explicitly mentions this also). The situation here has no chinuch application (since the family member is not my child and not a minor).
I am only interested in whether this is right/wrong in halacha considering all the issues. I am not looking for any personal gain here. As I said before, I will be asking formally. I see the answer going one of three potential ways:
1- Assur
2- Muttar, but not something to do (for whatever reason)
3- Muttar, and a good idea to use in practise.
1&2 are the same to me, even though there is an academic difference (which of course I would be interested in).