ARWSF: There was recently a study done in which they concluded that it takes on average 10 years for a woman to leave a bad marriage.
I’ve seen this so so many times unfortunately…
One thing I don’t get is why the kallah/chosson teachers dont teach more PRACTICAL things during lessons. YES I know how important niddah is – but really… a frum kid that had bare contact with a guy/girl is suddenly going to live with one. How are they supposed to know how to do it or what to look for. Anyone who’s been divorced knows that the problems started from day one… (even during dating) they just didn’t know what to look for… or ignored signs b/c they didn’t realize they were important signals to future issues.
As far as blame… OMG.. why? If you’re looking to blame someone you’re surely the one at fault. Look at YOURSELF. If you work one yourself then it doesn’t matter who what when where how? If you feel you can’t work on yourself in your marriage – then you have a problem. Seek HELP not BLAME!