@DY he meant in regards to questions of hashkafa or otherwise people pretend to be something they are not, when they are dating and then when they get married and the wife/husband discovers there spouse is not really who they made themselves out to be … the rest is history. They may divorce immediately or they may hold out for years but many times the results are the same. As he is on the front lines and has dealt with these types of situations many times I would tend to believe him.
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