I was referring to your RESOUNDING NO, as opposed to a thought out-well informed NO. Resounding NO’s for having, in your words, “SOME chessronos, but . . . displayed out in the open” are the reason so many people are not even dating, let alone married.
Why do you interpret zdads words to say, “push people” to marry someone with a medical issue? Nobody said Push. To some of us, considering a less then perfect shidduch would not be called pushing, it would be called ”taking it into consideration”. It seems to be different perspectives.