OK, so MonseyGirl (and anyone esle who might use this phrase)
Consider saying (yeshivish, AND on the ball, or with it; not BUT.
But negates the first part, and you really don’t want to call yourself not aidel.
As a parent, the term “non-aidel” brings to mind the girls that come Walmart or Center one in flipflops, sweatshirts and floorsweeping skirts.