2smart4u: Welcome to the CR! I agree with most of what you said (at least if I understood it correctly). I’ve had this discussion with others before, and unfortunately, you will never win this argument. Our observations don’t matter – all you’ll hear back is, “But Da’as Torah said differently from you! Do you think you know better than da’as Torah?”
In this case, yes, I think I do know better. I’ve gone through all the temptations, slipped up for a while, and found my way back. I understand it much better than most Rabbonim. They never went through this, so they don’t know what goes through our heads.