@jb22, I wrote “Kids don’t go OTD from frumkeit.”, which you disputed with “kids do go otd because of absolutism”. That was the strawman which I was calling you out on, because you twisted my argument into one defending absolutism.
I would agree that sending out letters isn’t a complete solution, but certainly, in many cases, the parents are naive and need to know what goes on when their kids go out on Motzaei Shabbos. A mass gathering wouldn’t reach everyone, and it’s a logistical impossibility to personally speak to every parent.
It’s also a necessary statement if the community’s values. You see how some people actually defend it.