yichusdik: I don’t really understand politics so I have difficulty understanding some of the things that you are saying. But I do have a few comments.
On the one hand, I agree that it is important for the Rabbonim to have complete authority over chareidi yeshivas. That itself may be one of the bigger differences between chareidi society to MO: the chareidi rabbonim are not just rabbinical authorities but rabbinical leaders. In America, for whatever reasons the rabbonim chose to relinquish some of that authority and it seems to me that in return they are generally less respected/central then their E”Y counterparts. Or maybe it was the other way around.
On the other hand, if you don’t think that the larger none-religious Isareli public are not antagonistic towards chareidim, you have either not lived in E”Y or you are not aware of what the media does there. There is true hatred there both in the media (just look at the stories here on YWN, where it is always pointed out) and in the government (which was founded on the principles of cutting Yemenite boys peyos off) and that is not something new.
Lastly, I understand that you disagree with the gedolim who make these decisions. That is your prerogative. But to me it seems that they are trying to maintain a limud-Torah centric society as best as they can. If it means taking money from the government, fine. If the government refuses, they’ll lobby or whatever they need to do. If that doesn’t work, then they’ll make the changes they deem necessary at that time with the goal of keeping the community as close to the ideal as possible. Why does it have to be any more than that?