g_a_w: So she is Stam an Am Haaretz who doesn’t know that men have been working in kitchens (including the Amoraim that I & WS mentioned earlier) for Dorei Doros? Your explanation may be plausable, but mine is being Dan L’Kaf Zechus.
In your explanation, you are making the Rebbitzen out to be a bigger Am Haaretz. The Tanaaim and Amoraim definitely had more Torah to be mechabed than my R”Y does. But from the fact that they are singled out we can infer that they were yichidim in their actions who saw specific toeles for them in the individual things they did. And we can also say they did it for kovod Shabbos or Sholom Bayis. Both may be reasons to make exceptions. But from the exceptions we can learn the rule.
Sam2: That’s because it’s a good story and it wouldn’t go over as well in certain Velts with the name R’ Soloveitchik as with R’ Moshe. But it happened with Rav Yoshe Ber. I have heard several firsthand testimonies to that fact.
I don’t know if what you say is correct or just a smidgen or m”sra. Who is Rav Yoshe Ber?