Ben: I think B’pashtus L’histakel means to look intently. The Gemara had a Hava Amina that even this would be Muttar for a Kallah but it’s not. You can see her though, without staring, and comment on her beauty. But maybe when there are 25,000 people around and you’re the center of attention, even just Stam seeing is too much. (Especially when a lot of people there are those that aren’t your friends or your Chassan’s friends and you have no idea who you are.)
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