Vogue
Popa is neither a guy or a girl. Popa is a concept.
To answer your question, I’m a guy but I can imagine what you are going through and its certainly a challenging transition to go from a modern upbringing and shift to a more heimish one. The issue you are having is common with people who change and move to the right. Guys have this problem just as girls do. Anyways I think the smartest and safest thing to do is make strong gedarim. Decide that you will no longer go over to guys you know. If they come over to you explain briefly why you no longer can chat with them and part ways on a friendly note. You will have to have a “script” prepared and expect it to be uncomfortable the first few times. However the only way this will work is if you make up your mind that there’s no exceptions. You can’t talk to any of the guys you used to know.