When i started shidduchim, i was still in the mindset that a learning boy is the way to go. I’m glad I had the seichel to realize that I’m not cut out to live a life of struggling to support my family, running from gemach to gemach, begging school administrations for discounts on tuition, racking up a bill at the grocery, depending on my parents support until they physically cant work anymore, etc.. I do have an ahavas hatorah and i do respect those that learn. I do realize that we need people to learn to keep this world going.
But i also realize that I do not want to be a taker. I want to be independant and have the learning too. Unfortunately nowadays one needs to have 2 working parents in order to stay afloat.
Yes i work 1 and half jobs, yes i take care of my young children, yes i take care of running the house, my husband learns and works too. unfortunately we still need a break in tuition BUT we can pay our bills in full and on time, b”h. I’m not trying to brag, just trying to open up others minds that it is ok in fact it is a blessing to be able to support YOURSELF. Even if you work ful time, you can have a seder at night.
Isnt the Daf Yomi “created” for teh working man? Yet look what a kiddush Hashem is made every 7 years, look who graces the dais! I think that should answer everyones questions about working.