oomis -“Health, with all due respect – There is a chiyuv for a woman to be the akeres habayis, to raise the next generation of Torah-observant Jews, and to be an eizer k’negdo for ehr husband. That does not mean they have a chiyuv to do both their own job AND his. And if for whatever reason it seems you don’t feel that what a Stay at Home Wife/Mom does is work, you have no clue about how much harder it is, than to be out in the workforce.”
Your post touches on many issues and some aren’t related. I wasn’t talking about Kollel vs. Non-kollel. Yes, there is a Chiyuv for a woman to work, no matter what the husband does.
“I do however, agree with your point that there is little parnassah in the home, hence they often need to go out to work to get PAID. But don’t try to find a Gemorah that APPLAUDS a woman neglecting her home responsibilities.”
They aren’t allowed to trade one for another. A woman has both responsibilities.
“Our grandkdis are being raised by nannies, more often than not NON-Jewish ones. That cannot be a GOOD thing.”
This is wrong to hire Goyim! Here in Lakewood, almost e/o has Frum babysitters, whether in their own home or elsewhere.