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So exactly what is ridiculous?

What is ridiculous, is that you think it is somehow easier to be man because your issurim don’t affect your kids’ status. Since it is still assur.

A man whose wife will not accept a get, and who cannot obtain a legitimate heter meah rabbonim (you can always get a shady one- it costs about 50k), is CHAINED (as you put it, in caps). He CANNOT move on with his life, and cannot be married to anyone at all because she refuses to accept the get.

If he has no children, he CANNOT remarry and have children from a second wife until she dies.

Sure, he can become not frum, and stop caring about halacha, and marry a woman without telling her he is already married, or marry a shiktza, or in some states he can even marry another man. -But I don’t really see that as an advantage.

In any event, a woman can also ignore halacha, and just go marry again without a get. So her kids will be mamzerim- as long as we’re not caring about halacha, who cares? Mamzerim can also ignore halacha, and get married.

Or hey! If we get enough women to stop caring about halacha, they can make whole communities of mamzerim, who can marry each other. And those people won’t have to worry about divorces at all- since their kids are mamzerim anyway!