If shadchans are the gatekeepers of the shidduch process then much of this shidduch mess(crisis) wrests on their shoulders.
1. Let’s wrestle it away from them.
2. Shidduchim come from Hashem (this should really be #1 but for the wrestling theme)
3. Shadchan = people. Anyone can be a shadchan. So what you mean to say is, people thought this person wasn’t marriageable, until they got married. Fortunately for humanity, that happens all the time. 🙂 Because of point #2.