again, the bus thing is only because we were raised that way. the women dont feel that way. ay, you think they do? they still dont. they are not sent to the back, they sit in the back. and they dont view it a demeaning. civilty is vaiter something being dictated by those who decided it isnt civil.
Even Naniach your point, since some of those to whom it is being applied do have an education, know about Rosa Parks and do feel discriminated against (as opposed to those who don’t care, or who don’t have an education), shouldn’t the order be changed? Even if it is a matter of perception, perception is the Ikkar (especially when you want cooperation regarding the draft and funding of Yeshivos). A compromise on a point that L’Halacha makes no Nafkei Mina anyway can go a long way in opening opportunities for Charaidim getting what they want in other areas.