Reply To: Getting the other to say no

DaasYochid: What’s the point in doing that? If you have a valid reason for saying no, I don’t see why the shadchan could reasonably call you picky – and who wants to leave their future in the hands of an unreasonable shadchan? And there is always the consideration that you are being unreasonable in saying no so quickly – in which case, you need to reevaluate. In any case, I don’t see why one would have to go about finagling the boy into saying no.