Sure, and I understand why people would want to kill people and steal their money and wives.
This is probably not as bad.
You could just as easily say that people would want to do it because it is uncomfortable to be the one saying no.
that people would want to do it because it is uncomfortable to be the one saying no.
You’re right, just as easy. But that’s pure weakness of character, whereas not wanting the shadchan to think you’re picky is practical, if you want them to redt you more shidduchim.
If I thought someone was doing this to me, I would tell every shadchan I know and every friend of mine about it.
That’s another good reason not to do it (especially since you never know, it might be Popa). I think being unethical (the reason I gave) is good enough, though.