we never said a word before the first trimester ENDED. And sometimes I just didn’t tell for a while because I couldn’t deal with people telling me I am supposed to be resting and taking it easy etc even though nobody was offerring to take over any of my work.
A funny story is that two days after my mother had a major brain tumor removed I was in ICU with her and I told her I was expecting (I was probably in my fifth month but I don’t show til very late). She looked at me with her very blank post-op face and said, “you think we didn’t know?”