I think it is a chillul Hashem to register a marriage in such a state. Like New York (which is similar to old York in that it allows pogroms).
Unfortunately this is a growing trend, it would be very bad if traditional weddings are not registered as a result. It’s not only New York, you know.
But when states like New York (and old York) recognize your relationship, they do so in the same way that they recognize the terribly destructive relationships–saying that your relationship has similar ones to those (chas v’shalom). What a terrible chillul Hashem, and what a terrible thing to ask them for that recognition.
A Chillul Hashem to get married? I don’t see how.
Nobody is asking for that same recognition. Is it really similar?
And we don’t have to let them win.
It’s like cutting off your nose to spite your face. There must be a better way to protest this.
My grandson-in-law’s rosh yeshiva will not be mesader kiddushin without a marriage license, but ?????? that I would insist on not having one.
We have no way of controlling this. They really don’t care one way or the other, if we go ahead and obtain marriage licenses or not. So what will that accomplish?
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Amen.