Reply To: Sometimes you just need to cry

Yom Kippur Yizkor and ANY time Unesaneh Tokef is davened, always leave me in tears. I enjoy yom tov very much, but let’s face it, when we lose a loved one, it cannot help but lessen our simcha. I lit candles next to my mother for the 16 years that I was married until she died, and before that, always stood at her side when she bensched licht. Every time I light now, I am acutely, ACUTELY aware that she has been gone for nearly 20 years, and it pains me very deeply. But that does not mean I cannot enjoy the yom tov nevertheless.