Try Rabbi Klein. It’s a wonderful organization from the little I know, a lot of resources, professionals, etc. Tell them the nature of your matzav, I’m sure they’ll expedite matters. (tell ’em Oh Shreck! sent you, if that doesn’t scare them…)
Again, I know nothing about this sort of crisis you’re in, other then just knowing that I cannot fathom your extreme pain and anguish, torture and grief, feelings of anger and shame. It would be a lie to say I feel your pain, because I know I cannot. I know you’re suffering something beyond my comprehension. But we (us here in the CR) are here for you, to lend you a shoulder to cry on, to try to comfort you, ease your pain, to maybe assist you in any way possible.
Again, because of the nature of your crisis, it’s extremely important to know who to take advice from (actually it’s not that important who, it’s what advice to follow). Sometimes over-helpful individuals ???? ?????, in their eagerness to show support, consolation, etc., will offer advice detrimental to your particular case. Take every advice offered here (including this!) with a grain of salt. Don’t discard outright, just choose wisely. And get the professional assistance, guidance you deserve.
From my limited understanding of this nature it’s quite understandable that he’s not happy about himself, he’s into at-risk-type behavior, closed and secretive. It’s ALL for one reason, and that can be dealt with ?? ???? ??? quite effectively, through the aid of the various professionals out there.
May HaShem give you the strength and courage you need at this trying time. May you and your son, family, come out stronger than before.