uch i know exactly what you mean cofeefan, people are either plain stupid or rude cause they really dont think before they open their mouths. i recently had cancer so i write on the yeshiva world blog on cancer survivor stories and we were just talking about how unfortunately people mean to be nice but are not and they want to give advice but it would be better if they kept quiet. at the end the maskana was surround yourself with people who care and understand!!!
