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rebdoniel
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A guy who goes to school and works as an accountant, PT, OT, Speech Therapist, PA (all popular fields for the frum community) while also going to minyan in the morning and learning mornings and evenings should, theoretically, be seen as a good shidduch.

I see having a profession as a machshir/means for a man to be yotzei his chiyuv (found in the ketuba) of providing for a wife. Ideally, if your work has a positive impact on the world and helps others, that’s wonderful, as well.

Having the mechutanim support you can cause shalom bayis problems. When the in-laws have control or any undue influence over any aspect of a marriage, that’s asking for trouble. OTOH, meeting people at university is often not possible, since many college-aged people aren’t seeking a shidduch, and the number of observant Jews at many colleges is limited. If one goes to a school with sizable observant population, then this could be a possibility.