Suffering is all in the mind. A person can have tremendous tragedies happen to them and be happy and get on with life. A person can also feel that every little thing that goes wrong is a major disaster and suffer terribly.
I recently went through a loss – it was painful and distressing and it stills hurts, but I am not suffering because I am not going to let it make me depressed. I am not quite myself yet and won’t be for some time most probably but I will not let my husband and children or my class in school be affected by what I feel.