Well were supposed to suffer in this life, and if you go through tonz of stuff and it dosent affect you at least in the inside, like at least!!! Like other people dont know but inside you are suffering, if you arent going thtough that you either are a robot or were not born with feelings. Hashem gave us feelings not to shut up but to tell ourselves its OK to feel wtvr, but if it takes over our life thats not OK.
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